Counting By 7s (Review)

Counting By 7s fits within the genre of a “pro-adoption,” feel-good story that rightfully counters notions of biocentrism within the realm of family but does so at the expense of reality. While there is superficial mention of many important topics, the book fails to portray trauma-informed complexities related to parental bereavement, transracial adoption, foster care systems, multiraciality and neurodivergence — all of which are systems and experiences real-life 12 year olds are navigating on a daily basis. Though this book has received multiple awards, I cannot recommend Counting By 7s to adoptees or fosterees who are looking for literature that will resonate.

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Adoption Themed Book Club List

I recently participated in a FCCNY book club discussion of The Tea Girl of Hummingbird Lane by Lisa See. The book revolves around a Chinese adoption story. The author, Lisa See, is not an adoptee, and her limited knowledge of adoption and adoptee identity development was very apparent throughout the book. At the end of the meeting, the adoptive mothers in the group began discussing book possibilities for future meetings. This prompted me to put together a list of adoption reading for anyone considering an adoption themed book club or wanting more information about adoption.

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The Tea Girl of Hummingbird Lane (Review)

Read this book if you want to think of birth mothers reimagined, a fantastical rags to riches “Cinderella” story, or a beautiful portrayal of scenery and a lesser known culture, not if you are an adoptee looking to identify with Haley, the Chinese adoptee character in the story. While Lisa See tried to do her research, her identity as a non-adopted person shows clearly in the adoptee parts of this book. The use of common adoption tropes and clunky, developmentally-off dialogue made the adoptee passages difficult for me to read or even get excited about until the last chapter.

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